本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Many men, such as me and probably your husband, only understand simple instructions. I always tell my wife: "Tell me what exactly your want, and we'll get it." But when she gets it, she is no longer happy, because she "had to ask for it ".
People like me just don't understand what their wives really wants. It takes time for them to learn. I have been learning for about 15 years. My wife is the teacher.
Many women, such as you and my wife, tend to express their demonds in an indirect way. When she wants a watch, she says: "It is my dream to have a diamond watch." When the husband suggests "let's buy one", she would say: "No, it is too expensive." While in her mind she said: "Yes, I want you to buy it for me without asking."
So, after living with my wife for 15 years, when she says "No", I just don't know if she means Yes or No. I would simply ask her what she meant.
Meanwhile, as she knows that I could never understand her, she would simply get angry at me and eventually tell me what she really want and enjoy the gift.
In conclution, as it is said, men are from Mars and women are from Venus. You have to teach him, and he has to learn.
When the husband and wife communicate very well (that's something my wife has been learning for 15 years and still refuses to do), you will live happily ever after.
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